Boys and girls, the word of the day is "networking." When you hear the word "networking" I need you to scream really loud. It looks like we will be doing the same type of footwork to jump start the adoption as with our new business venture (ACN)-"networking!" AAAAAAAUUUUUGHHHHHH! (I know you're screaming really loud right now to humor me even though we are miles apart-j/k!) Can you not tell that I'm a product of the 80's and 90's? A little nod to Pee Wee's Playhouse. I know more of you watched it than will admit to it...Anyways, yesterday Billy and I met with the director of our adoption program in order to get an update on the current status of our wait.
We have been within the program for five months, and we wanted to know the following things: Have new birthmothers joined the program? How many times has our profile been shown to birthmothers? Has anything within our profile been a turn off to the birthmothers? The director informed us that since we have joined the program, only a few birthmothers have joined. In fact, there seems to be a bit of a shortage of birthmothers. Nobody knows why that is the case. I wondered if less babies were born during the winter months or maybe more birthmothers keep their babies during the holidays. It's anybody's best guess. Since it is so quiet, the director said that the program is doing lots of outreach to connect with potential birthmothers in surrounding areas. She also informed us that our profile has been shown twice. It is hard for us to know this, and realize we were not chosen. However, she said birthmothers often select couples based off little things that struck them about a prospective adoptive couple. For example, maybe the husband and wife are dancers and the birthmother was a dancer. Maybe the birthmother grew up riding quads and the adoptive couple enjoys the hobby. You never know what will strike a chord. Lastly, the director confirmed that there has been nothing within our profile that has been a turn off to birthmothers-to which we were relieved!
During our meeting, Billy and I realized why this part of our journey is particularly hard. We have felt that there isn't much we can do aside from waiting for that phone call (that we've been matched). However, the director said we could also be networking on our own: talking to our family and friends-having them spread the word for us. Networking! Our adoption program will continue to hang fliers at surrounding colleges, contact other clinics, and notify other organizations of us. With all this networking, something is bound to happen!
Family and friends, as you know, our adoption is NOT a secret. Please spread the word that we are attempting to locate a birthmother. If you hear about a friend of a friend of a friend's grand daughter who is pregnant and considering adoption (for example), let me know. We understand that these scenarios often do not work out; the majority of the time the birthmother will change her mind. However, you never know! You may end up being the one God uses to help coordinate our adoption! It gives me shivers just to think about it! As always, thank you for your continued prayers and well wishes as we journey on to our destination-life with baby!
Friday, February 25, 2011
Saturday, February 19, 2011
He Works in Mysterious Ways
Ever since I was little, I remember hearing the phrase "the Lord works in mysterious ways." Various times in my life I've seen that. The fact that Billy's life path and my life path even crossed is a miracle. The way that Billy ended up doing mortgage banking...The way God has provided me with teaching positions when the job outlook was bleak...I believe our most recent miracle happened this week. No, we did not get the call we've been craving :(, but I believe this latest "God thing" is preparation for it.
About two weeks ago, I was thinking about many of the working moms that I know who do such an excellent job balancing their outside-of-home careers, child rearing, and other home-making responsibilities. I have been so blessed to be surrounded by women that I love and respect for they are truly superwomen. However, I know that for many working moms, it is a struggle to leave their children with a care provider. I understand that many women especially in today's economy have to work outside of the home in order to survive financially. My mother was a stay at home mom, but I have never thought much about it because of my desire to have a career. Plus, times are different. As I pondered all this, I began to think about the great lengths (over 8+yrs!) we have gone to extend our family, and for what-to have someone else raise the baby?! I began to experience a very deep sadness (and guilt) already about my plan to work after our baby arrives.
I shared this with Billy, and I asked him if there was a possiblity that I could stay home with the baby and eventually return to work a few years later. He assured me that he would look into our financial situation a little further, and he would let me know. Two days later, I asked him what he thought about the whole thing. He informed me that he thought he had found a solution. A childhood friend approached him that day about a potential business venture that Billy (with my help) can easily take on in addition to his current job. It will take lots of extra work, but there is lots of potential to make residual income. At first, I was VERY skeptical, but then I looked into the company's reputation, and I have been thoroughly impressed by it. Donald Trump himself has so much admiration for the company, known as ACN, that he has offered to purchase it, but the owners refused to sell. ACN is a telecommunication company in which representatives sell services such us phone, cable, online, and eventually energy! In fact, Billy has "jumped in with both feet"; he flew out to North Carolina this weekend to attend a huge conference and to tour their 16 acre facilities!
I have to admit that I was not supportive of him taking on a second job, but that was before I became aware of the company's reputation. However, I find the timing of it all VERY interesting, and I can't help but wonder if this isn't another way God is going to provide for us as we get ready for baby! It may be years before I'm able to stay home with our children-yes, we will probably adopt a second baby eventually. I'm trusting that He is working out all the details as I write this.
About two weeks ago, I was thinking about many of the working moms that I know who do such an excellent job balancing their outside-of-home careers, child rearing, and other home-making responsibilities. I have been so blessed to be surrounded by women that I love and respect for they are truly superwomen. However, I know that for many working moms, it is a struggle to leave their children with a care provider. I understand that many women especially in today's economy have to work outside of the home in order to survive financially. My mother was a stay at home mom, but I have never thought much about it because of my desire to have a career. Plus, times are different. As I pondered all this, I began to think about the great lengths (over 8+yrs!) we have gone to extend our family, and for what-to have someone else raise the baby?! I began to experience a very deep sadness (and guilt) already about my plan to work after our baby arrives.
I shared this with Billy, and I asked him if there was a possiblity that I could stay home with the baby and eventually return to work a few years later. He assured me that he would look into our financial situation a little further, and he would let me know. Two days later, I asked him what he thought about the whole thing. He informed me that he thought he had found a solution. A childhood friend approached him that day about a potential business venture that Billy (with my help) can easily take on in addition to his current job. It will take lots of extra work, but there is lots of potential to make residual income. At first, I was VERY skeptical, but then I looked into the company's reputation, and I have been thoroughly impressed by it. Donald Trump himself has so much admiration for the company, known as ACN, that he has offered to purchase it, but the owners refused to sell. ACN is a telecommunication company in which representatives sell services such us phone, cable, online, and eventually energy! In fact, Billy has "jumped in with both feet"; he flew out to North Carolina this weekend to attend a huge conference and to tour their 16 acre facilities!
I have to admit that I was not supportive of him taking on a second job, but that was before I became aware of the company's reputation. However, I find the timing of it all VERY interesting, and I can't help but wonder if this isn't another way God is going to provide for us as we get ready for baby! It may be years before I'm able to stay home with our children-yes, we will probably adopt a second baby eventually. I'm trusting that He is working out all the details as I write this.
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